The Way of It

One of the most exciting moments in my life took place when I realized that just because I love somebody that does not mean that I have to date, kiss, have sex with, live with or marry that person. Love only implies itself and it is sufficient for itself. And I learned this by noticing that my love for somebody is really my love for myself, that the somebody was a projection of mind all along. What joy came out of this realization, I cannot describe, although there is a way, I found out, to get a taste for this kind of joy, and this is the exercise that I describe below. It is odd, fun and quite delicious. Read on.

1. I close my eyes and picture in my mind how would I feel if I was with someone I really liked. I Pick a specific person and I allow my mind to show me all the qualities I like in that person. I allow the experience to become very real, I really recall how good it feels to be with that person.
2. Aware of the fact that it’s me whom I’m liking throughout the experience, I allow the images of the person I thought about to dissolve while keeping the feelings that came with it. They are feelings about me, after all, and I notice that, even though these people in my life come and go, I remain.
3. I then pick somebody else, and allow my mind to show me all the qualities I like in this person. And while keeping the feelings from the previous experience, I allow this new experience to also become very real, I really recall how good it feels to be with this new person. I then repeat step two, with the new person.
4. I add as many people to the soup as I wish.

It is an exercise in finding all the wonderful qualities your loved ones have that really are inside of yourself and in having the courage to take them in, of bathing in the experience that it’s YOU whom you’ve been deeply in love with all along.

Sometimes I make the list of all the people I’ve liked throughout my life that I can recall, and I sit in the experience of running this exercise for as long as I can handle the intense joy that comes with it.

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